Mothers and Trees blowing in spring’s breeze

Everywhere I look in this season of endless beginnings, I see the old nurturing the young. Little flowers being coaxed out of bare branches, making me wonder what secrets were simmering in that dry old bark before she came out in bloom. It makes me re-imagine those gloomy winter days of death and desolation, to periods of intense inward reflection, preparation and churning for rebirth. It makes me reflect on the necessity of silence and death, introspection and hibernation, shedding and preparation for the seed of beauty to be nurtured and coaxed out.

There is another pervading thought that I can’t rid of, that is our roles and responsibilities as parents and our position in the cosmos. We go from a position where we don’t have control and other people (our parents) determine what direction we go; to the point where we are running our households and setting the example and foundation for the next generation. I wonder about this tree that I am, trying to coax out the seeds of tomorrow’s roots, am I strong enough to stand the winds and trials that will surely shake my limbs? I wonder of these roots of mine that have been constantly uprooted in search of new geographical climes to start over again; are they entrenched enough in these new soils to provide the necessary nutrients for my babies to thrive? I wonder too at this restlessness that afflicts me, this wanderlust that has been passed on to me from generations of seekers and traders, am I capable of providing that stability needed to create a sense of belonging or are my offspring doomed to embracing their strangeness and staking claims on many homes secretly knowing they will always be a/part?

My similarity to the rest of the universe ends there; for while the trees have no other recourse but to nurture, grow and thrive in perfect harmony with the cosmos, I am the only one foolish enough to will my existence against equilibrium’s gradient. While the rest of nature lives in a momentary sigh of praise and dies graciously to join the earth in nurturing more roots; I am the only one crazy enough to try and hold my breath and steel my will against the glow of conscience buried deep within. While the rest of creation sparkles with heart rending beauty giving me a glimpse of His eternal Mysteries, I am the only one ignoble enough to walk around resolutely with shut eyes and a slumbering heart; senseless and insensible to all calls.

My follies are compounded because it’s not just “me” that I have to worry about anymore; it is these impressionable souls in my care that are open to any imprints I “inflict” upon them. I hope the term “inflict” is non applicable in our case. I reflect on the consequences of the decisions I make today; of the lessons I impart through my unconscious acts; of the beauty that I will leave behind with them to propagate long after my body has become food for worms; and my soul enters another realm.

For as sure as winter is to come again; as sure as the leaves that shine with the glory of newness are to dance their colors back into earth; my body will soon join the processions of the dead and all will be left behind are echoes of whatever good I cultivated (or bad I dissipated) while alive in this moment that is gifted to me.

May we embrace what is beautiful, nurture what is good and live a life worthy of God’s sight and Memory (amin.)

Posted by Maliha on 04/01 at 11:28 AM

Responses

oh Maliha, I’m sure your “imprint” is wonderful! But I understand, I’d like to spare my kids the “strangeness”.

Posted by Jamila  on  04/01  at  08:14 PM

ameen. I agree with Jamila smile

Posted by Shazia  on  04/01  at  10:30 PM

Only love lasts. And the love you pass on to the next generation may last a thousand years, as each generation passes it on to the other. And the love you have when you pass to the next world is the only thing we take with us, the only real thing of value in both worlds.

Dear Sister, you are rich indeed smile

Ya Haqq!

Posted by Irving  on  04/03  at  02:33 AM

ameen..and may we always remember our point in this donia, to worship Allah the way He deserves realizing that the most “trivial” deed can be the determining factor that Allah chooses to use in placing us in Jannah.

jazakAllah kheir..
suhaa

Posted by suhaa  on  04/03  at  08:23 AM

Ameen, dear sis.

May Allah make our children (and i say “our” even though i don’t have my own yet, but i am an aunty of sorts!) the coolness of our eyes and a source of reward. And may they be protected from all harm, including that which we may knowingly of unknowingly “inflict” upon them. Ameen.

Salaams to all.

Posted by iMuslim  on  04/03  at  02:05 PM

Ameen. The fact that we as parents are responsible for moulding our children’s characters is a great reponsibility. I really feel the weight of that responsibility and always pray that my children see me as a good example of a muslim, a mother, a woman.

The wonder of changing seasons and rebirth…subhanAllah.

Posted by Taiba  on  04/03  at  05:21 PM

This comment is not specificaly related to the beautifully written atricle above. I hope readers feel that I am using this forum appropriately, I am not sure where else to ask my question. Motherhood is important to us all, for many it is our purpose and joy in life. I am a student midwife and am looking to find ways to provide appropriate care to Muslim women. Of course every woman is different and people will not want the same because they share a religion. However, if anyone wishes to help I am looking to find individuals views on thier birth expereinces in the UK. If anyone wishes to post reflections on thier experinces i would be honoured to read them. Thank you all.

Posted by Tegan  on  04/06  at  12:36 PM
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